FAREWELL TO FAMILY & FRIENDS WHO HAVE DRIFTED AWAY . FANTASTIC! FINE! PLEASE STAY BLESSED. PRAYERS.
PLEASE LET’S LET GO OF THOSE WHO HAVE OUTGROWN US FOR THEY HAVE MOVED ON . SO SHOULD WE. WIN WIN.
At the outset, as always, I confess, that I am not a subject matter expert of all I write, but at the same time, all those topics that makes me happy, introspective and where I did learn a lesson, I try to assemble them together. Please, do not feel constrained to agree for there is a different fit for everyone.
Whilst writing these words, am reminded of so many acquaintances, friends and family , who proclaimed to me , that this bond mattered the most to them, but have slowly and steadily moved away, never to reach out or respond. Their words and actions can be deemed as being asymmetrical.
Here, we keep on phoning, texting and writing longest messages to them , as though our world starts and ends with them. The needles of our time has stood still for us, but for them, their time and space zone has blocked us.
Few strategies first hand, mentioned below that hold me in good stead are: Please seek an audience from all those , who once claimed closeness, but now who have drifted away, to just get to the root of the problem. Try putting pieces together if any. If nothing works ,silently sign off. Due caution has to exercised not to take the matter to public display then it hits us like a double whammy. We could either become a topic of ridicule or appear to be a victim. Without a whimper , please let us clear our slate. No debit and no credit. Everything nullified.
This is an act which will clear us of a nagging doubt ” Have I hurt them unknowingly? The response if any , would necessitate us to say a sorry , thanks and excuse me or no thanks , no sorry or no excuse me.
Of course, no begging, just an exploration of the truth of the break up and a patch up if possible . Here the relation could be sour siblings, friend turned foe, parting parents etc. The relation in itself is not of a great consequence . A broken bond has to be repaired , if at all….
In the first instance only , If they do not take that trouble of connecting, maybe try, for just one more time and then the case gets closed and sealed permanently from our side. No more trip down memory lane and handshake .
Let’s be magnanimous not to pester and make our presence felt where not required. With zero guilt glide away , in greatest glory.
Please do not forget to pray for them for we did enjoy fine moment’s in the past with them. To let go totally, should be a gentle, good and gracious act with no contempt or malice. They have moved on, not their fault.
We are holding closest the strings of affections which we need to disentangle ourselves from. The act of letting off, gives us a feel best factor. What is tied through force snaps, what is linked with hope , love, togetherness and mutual admiration and awe builds a beautiful bridge of bliss and bright beginnings. Rest will only wilt and wither.
Why waste our worthful time and energy just like that on the worthless?
So many associations, which then held great promise , after the above act of lossening the tie, made me forget that these people actually existed. After completely obliterating them out of my radar, I unleashed a new spring of freedom and a great thought Wow! What a great relief!. Few did reach out after many years for their convenience and gain, but by then, the mirror of faith had broken to pieces. Not again the drama!
This time we have moved on and out. Reverse engineering in full gear.
To my mind, we need to live with a high self esteem but no false prejudice and to grapple lovingly the truest relations that matter to us.
To walk that extra mile alone for a fine person and to mend a bruised heart is worth the countless efforts but to snoop , scruntize and survey on an undeserved, becomes like a coil/noose on the other’s neck as also ours. Dignified exit for us, would be like a sunshine all the way laced with peace and tranquility.
Let’s not sniff the oxygen off someone else but surely keep a hopeful eye and find a genuine friend who can once again brighten our life. This is certain to happen. Why not? If say, even a few hundred moved away, we still have the wide Universe all waiting with open arms to embrace us. As a friend, a sibling, a guide or a parent.
The show moves on fabulously. No guilt trip, no failure feelings and definitely no self pity. Head held high we need to move towards bright beginnings.
Here’s cheers to Hope, Happiness and Health and above all to CHANGE . YES CHANGE, CHANGES EVERYTHING. JUST ABOUT ALL . HANDS DOWN WE ARE THE ULTIMATE WINNERS THAT TOO ORGANICALLY ACHIEVED.